FROM: http://survivorquotes.bravehost.com/gaslight.html

“When caught in a lie or challenged with the truth, they are seldom perplexed or embarrassed — they simply change their stories or attempt to rework the facts so that they appear to be consistent with the lie.” — Robert Hare, PhD

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“I have never been so emotionally exhausted as I have been trying to keep up with this man’s brain in a conversation when he goes off on a tangent. Things come from left field that you don’t even see coming. I have to laugh now at the thought of it…..because I was essentially arguing with a child…I should have just told him to go to his room or grounded him or something.”

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“Yes, they are frustrating, but they are giving you an advanced course in self control. You cannot argue or even have a conversation with them. There is no satisfaction in telling them off, they just do the kindergarten “No, you are” thing. There is no closure, you just have to walk away and focus on yourself. The whole purpose of their existance is to get attention FROM you, and they will do it any way they can. As long as you are paying attention to them, they win. Any time you spend on N is that much of your life wasted.”

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“Many hours I have spent (wasted) trying to appease, settled down, quiet, succor, help, understand, calm the N….and defend myself to outrageous, untrue, hurtful, lying words and actions. This is the crazy-making process where you think its your fault and try ANYTHING and EVERYTHING to make it stop.”

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“Later, after you learned of NPD, it becomes crystal clear. He was testing your gullibility, to see just how far he could go, to see if you’d believe him. To prepare you for the future lies & stories he would tell & you’d believe him. The consummate manipulator, a master at duping everyone. It didn’t matter who, anyone would do, yet for some reason he took the most pleasure in pulling the wool over your eyes, the new, vulnerable woman in his life. He delighted in seeing the shock & horror on your face. Just like a little boy would.”