Just added to the Links page, this website contains lots of quotes, anecdotes, resources, and wisdom for abuse survivors. Special emphasis is placed on narcissists and psychopaths, because many abusers have these personality disorders. Most often, abusers are narcissists, which is said to be a milder form of psychopathy. The (ex)abusers of the administrators of this site were all malignant narcissists.
http://survivorquotes.bravehost.com/index.html
Here are a few juicy quotes from the SurvivorQuotes site:
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“Psychopaths are social predators who charm, manipulate, and ruthlessly plow their way through life, leaving a broad trail of broken hearts, shattered expectations, and empty wallets. ** Completely lacking in conscience and feelings for others, they selfishly take what they want and do as they please, violating social norms and expectations without the slightest sense of guilt or regret.”
Robert Hare, Ph.D. author
Without Conscience - The Disturbing World Of The Psychopaths Among Us
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“I am a doctor…of all things, and the N nearly cost me my career. I ended up bedridden with depression. You are reacting normally to an abnormal situation. It is devastating, but have faith. You can recover. ** The key is NO CONTACT. It took time but one year of NC and I am back practicing fulltime and living life. It has been a long and difficult raod. If not for this board and the love of my 3 wonderful children, I am not certain to have gotten here.”
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** “The narcissist is never the person he appears to be in the public sphere.”
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** “NPs particularly favor emotional types who are in touch with their feelings as targets. Two reasons - they are such a rich source of NS and they are easiest to spot. And, at the end of a relationship they can stir up more NS with their cruelty. So, what do we do? We need to shut down that emotional part of ourselves to heal and detach from them. Now isn’t that just the darndest thing?”
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“** These people don’t deserve one more minute of our time and being away from them will eventually prove that hard-learned point.”
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** “When I would go away for several days stbxN would be calling people and filling his time before I’d even left the driveway. Even then I sometimes had an “out of sight, out of mind” feeling — and noted how quickly I got replaced.”
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** “Happy, charming at first, then you face the devalue phase pulling the rug out from under you when you least expect it. Then you find out about the lies and manipulations, and you wonder how someone would continue to torment you with a Jekyll and Hyde behavior. They convince you that its because you’re not what they want after all.”
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“** It hurts to know I was nothing to him but available and easy NS.”
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NOTES:
“N” means Narcissism
“NC” means No Contact
“NS” means Narcissistic Supply
“NP” means Narcissistic Personality
** - Characteristics of the Editors’ NP (Ex) Abusers
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